How can I get my husband interested in again?

I've been with my husband for 7 yrs. Married for 3 of those. For the past 2 years he has been very disinterested in me. He talks to me more like a buddy or a pal. I feel like a roommate not a wife. I've tried to be the one to intiate things but he tells me I come on too strong, and I kiss "like a man." He told me that it makes him feel like less of a man when I come on to him. He wants me to wait for him to come to me. But I wait & wait & wait and he never comes around! I've tried lingerie, toys, dirty texts & emails, romantic dinners, candle light. I asked him what happened-- he never used to act this way towards me. He said I used to be more confidant.....Its really hard to be confidant these days. When I TRY to be confidant he shuts me down and tells me I kiss like a man for crying out loud! I told him all this- he just says he's "sorry" and he'll try more for me... but still.. noooo effort. I'm fit and in shape! I groom. I'm at a loss! I don't know what to do! I thought it was women who wanted less after marriage!! I'm only 22!!! Someone please tell me you have the answer!!!